Ely Magtolis is about family
On behalf of the Magtolis family, and from the heart and soul of the fellowship of Silliman Church , I would like to express our deepest thanks to all of you who have expressed your sympathies to this family in this saddest and most painful time of their lives.
For our strength and comfort, I have chosen to read a single verse from the book of Deuteronomy.
Deuteronomy 29:29 “The secret things belong to the Lord our God, but the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, that we may follow all the words of this law.”1.“The Secret things belong to the Lord” this strikes me in two ways. First, the life of Ely has been a secret to me till recently. I first met him at the ICU at SUMC last year, and all I knew was that he is a brother to Jun, Liling and Delilah, who are good friends. Ely had suffered a stroke, miraculously survived and needed special care. Second, there are many things in life, we can not explain. Suffering, natural catastrophes, victimization of innocents, why does God allow them to happen? The secret things belong to the Lord.
Of course, the Magtolis family, may not necessarily agree that Ely is a secret that belongs to God. Perhaps they have a deeper insight about his condition, and they have learned his role and purpose in their lives after 64 years living with him. Nevertheless and maybe because of this intimate relationship, there is a personal burden of sorrow they carry.
Inadequate though we are, we seek to carry part of that burden. The real secret is that God knows those burdens and feelings of sorrow and are meant to help you to bring closure to your grief.
2. ”But the things revealed belong to us and to our children forever, Ely Magtolis revealed something about your family. He was placed by God in your family to teach divine love and make you human. Now that he is gone, you may need to close ranks. You will need to find support from one another through talking and sharing, to affirm each of your own humanity. If you reveal the magnitude of your loss to each other, if you are patient in dealing with your deep hurt, if you cherish those good and pleasant memories with Ely, then your life will again stabilize, and your days will be filled with special meaning that will help you maintain the fond memory of Ely, while you embark upon a new chapter in your lives.
In your struggle with your loss, you may sometimes feel as though you are completely alone; yet God is certainly present in your life. God has not stopped loving you, neither has God stopped loving Ely.
But there is something else much more important about Ely’s life. We can bear witness today that he loved Jesus and Jesus loves Ely and we know that in Ely’s hour of despair and anguish, Ely slipped from this world into the tender arms of Jesus. Jesus Himself said, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies; and whoever lives and believes in me will never die” (John
11:25,26).3. That we may follow the Lord
Ely is about family. Family is about love, reconciling us to God and to one another. Ely was the precious gift, given by God to be loved by the family. He served God’s purpose. And now he is with God.
A biblical promise of this is found in Romans 8:38,39 –“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Yes, the Apostle Paul said that nothing shall separate us, or Ely from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Let the family draw upon the power of prayer. God feels the depth of your pain and He wants to share your burden of sorrow as He guides you along the pathway of healing.
In your prayers to God, you can express to Him your sense of desperate loss.
You can express to God your anger at Ely’s being a victim. You can express your guilt, your helplessness and your need for God’s healing.
So, within your personal relationship with God, you can share with God your darkest despair, and allow God to lead you to hope, understanding and peace, so you may accept Ely as a special gift to you.
God’s desire for all of us is that we might have life. As painful as our experiences are today, we still serve a wonderful God who helps us to overcome our pain and hurt, as we experience with God a deeper meaning of His love.
For it’s only through God’s Amazing Grace that our sorrow can be turned into joy!
May God be with you as a family as He leads you in your healing journey! May God bless the wonderful memories each of you has of Ely, who loves Jesus and is with Him eternally today.
(Sermon for vigil service for Elias Mirasol Magtolis, 27 May 08, Udarbe Chapel)